“Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life.” Joan Lunden
I like this quote a lot. It doesn’t say it ‘all’, as there are times during which allowing oneself to fully feel the anger, resentment, hurt etc., are perfectly valid and sometimes actually entirely necessary.
However, I do believe that it is both common and possible to have something happen to us that feels so dreadful, wrong, bad, life changing or simply hurtful and damaging and yet still to eventually, freely and willingly, let it go and to forgive.
To let go of the aftermath of those things that continue to harm, limit and discolour us or our actions, thoughts and feelings. To forgive those who have truly hurt us, whether intentionally or unintentionally.
I know this to be true as like so many others, I have done so personally.
If I can? You can.
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I had a really good talk with an amazing friend last night. When I arrived home, I was mindlessly surfing the net, when I stumbled on this quote.
“We attach our feelings to the moment when we were hurt, endowing it with immortality. And we let it assault us every time it comes to mind. It travels with us, sleeps with us, hovers over us while we make love, and broods over us while we die. Our hate does not even have the decency to die when those we hate die–for it is a parasite sucking OUR blood, not theirs. There is only one remedy for it. Forgiveness” Lewis B. Smedes
I enjoyed your post, it was thought provoking.
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Thank you. That’s a beautiful way to put it and I’m glad you enjoyed.
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Sometimes it’s HARD though…..
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oh gosh yes it can be indeed… x
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I have problems,i really don’t think anyone can understand me.i can’t trust peolple with myself but i want to be able to be myself without holding back.could you help??
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Hi there. You can contact me privately either on my FB Counselling Page http://www.facebook.com/DKGreenCounselling or via the Contact page on this website. I’d be more than willing to help you Lizbeth.
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