“I will take you from who and where you are now, closer to who and where you want to be, using your own mind, body and spirit.”
My name is DK.
Welcoming clients to my busy East Midlands-based practice for weekly or fortnightly appointments, whether in person, locally or nationally and internationally via Skype.
I am a 52 years young parent and grandparent with a very eclectic, interesting and varied life. My family and home are central to my happiness, as is travel and general exploration of life and self. I’m also very open and endeavour to bring my whole, authentic self to this work.
I have a reputation for ‘healing the healers and holding those who hold’. Is it time you put your own oxygen mask on first?
I have seven years of UK professional counselling studies and qualifications achieving levels 2, 3 and AQA Advanced Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling (after initial psychology studies). Including a two year Post Grad Diploma in Gender & Sexuality Studies with Pink Therapy. Aiming for PhD one of these days ‘in my spare time’. Psychodynamically trained; Integrated. I also continue to attend ‘latest thinking’ and ‘specialist areas’ workshops each year in order to always maintain my CPD (continuous professional development); well that, and a lifelong hunger for learning.
Additional skills that strongly inform my practice; Life coaching, supervision, guidance and mentoring, Sexuality coaching, Cognitive behavioural hypnotherapy and N.L.P. (neuro-linguistic programming).
My approach is very psycho-educational. I’ve often been heard to say ‘I have the most peculiar job; I help clients to look at things they don’t want to, and to work myself out of a job’! My aim is to equip my clients with as much psycho-education, skills, tools and strategies to be able to manage for themselves i.e. without me.
Familiar and experienced with diversities of gender, relationship styles, sexualities, lifestyle choices and therefore working with clients from the LGBTQIA+, polyamory, tantra, spirituality and kink communities. Sometimes just knowing this is an aspect of your life that I will not automatically pathologise, is enough to begin. Additionally experienced in working with diversities of culture, physical ability, neuro-diversity.
If in doubt that your particular struggle or challenge is something that I would be willing to or indeed able to work through with you, please do feel free to ask. I will respond without judgement and with honesty.
I do not have a magic wand. I may however carry a few more road maps than you for this particular situation. You’re still driving!
My personal interests include nature, walking, exploring, travel, reading, writing, meditation and spirituality. I have tried my hand at many physical and mental pursuits during my life including parachuting, paint-balling, body boarding, pot-holing/caving, climbing, abseiling, go-karting and generally exploring this world in which we live.
This continuing exploration includes a deep and ongoing commitment to self-development with various educational and experiential retreats such as; Vipassana, Shamanic circles, the Urban Tantra Professional Practitioners course with Barbara Carrellas, attending and assisting on UK workshops run by the likes of Dossie Easton, Raven Kaldera, Lee Harrington and more. You could say I believe one can never acquire enough knowledge, experience or skills. I’ve also read Tarot professionally for twenty years; I view this as an exceptional ‘life path progression tool’ for those whom it suits.
I love my family, friends, furry friends (we love cats and dogs and I’ve a Dutch Warmblood Palomino horse) my home, and my Suzuki Bandit 600E motorbike.
“If I accept you as you are, I will make you worse. However, if I treat you as though you are what you are capable of becoming, I help you become that.” Goethe.
Get in touch, let’s talk.
Note: Also available as an expert and experienced Consultant, Educator, Speaker (and Facilitator of groups/meetings) for extensive classes, workshops and talks (on gender, LGBTQIA+ issues and alternative sexualities) e.g. at five UK Universities and for national events and organisations such as the Pink Therapy Conference, SMPride, Kinkfest London 2004 (Organising Director), Polyday, Tantra4GayMen, Unitarian Youth Workers Training Conference.
Get in touch if you would like me to speak, teach, facilitate or hold a workshop for you.
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